Men's Mental Health: The Hidden Struggles
- Nischal Niroula
- Jun 6, 2024
- 4 min read
“Man up. You’re a man; you’re not supposed to be weak or cry. You shouldn’t show your emotions.” If you identify as a man, especially in Southeast Asia, you’ve likely heard these words.
Men often hesitate to admit mental health struggles due to fear of appearing weak, driven by societal expectations to be protectors and providers. While progress is being made, many men still find it hard to acknowledge when their mental health is deteriorating. The societal pressures on men make it challenging to admit when something is wrong and seek help. However, thanks to increased advocacy, organisational commitment towards mental health, and high-profile figures discussing their mental health challenges openly, attitudes are beginning to change. Yet, there’s still work to be done to normalise mental health care for men.
The Statistics
Mental health issues among men in Australia are significant. One in seven Australian men experiences depression or anxiety (or both) each year. Specifically, 13.3% of Australian men aged 16–85 have reported experiencing mental health issues. In Nepal, 11% of men aged 15–49 reported the same. Of the over 3,000 lives lost to suicide in Australia each year, approximately 75% are men. In Nepal, suicide rates have surged by 72% over the past decade. These data demonstrate that the stigma around men’s mental health persists globally, whether in developed countries like Australia or rural areas in Nepal. Despite steps taken to reduce these statistics, there is still much to be done to eradicate the misconceptions around men’s mental health. We must normalise men asking for help, But first we need to identify the signs.
Recognising Signs of Deteriorating Mental Health in Men
Detecting declining mental health can be challenging as it’s not a simple “on” or “off” switch. However, there are numerous signs that can indicate deteriorating mental health in men:
Changes in appearance: One of the most obvious signs is a disheveled look, fatigue, and weight changes.
Refusal to engage in social activities: Men often withdraw from social activities when feeling low, preferring to keep to themselves.
Lack of communication: They might stop replying to calls, texts, and emails, effectively going off the grid.
Withdrawal from hobbies and social media: A man battling inner struggles may lose interest in activities and social media that once excited him.
Increased work hours or sick leave: Men might either immerse themselves in work to avoid their thoughts or take more sick leave, unable to get out of bed.
Physical illness: They might neglect their health, stop eating well, exercising, or taking care of themselves as their energy is consumed by mental battles.
Addictive behaviours: Turning to alcohol, drugs, or gambling can be a way to numb emotions and escape mental pain.
Significant life changes: Major life events like health issues, relationship breakdowns, or career decisions can trigger or exacerbate mental health issues.
Understanding these signs is crucial for those around men who may be struggling with mental health issues, as many men develop a “fight” response rather than seeking help. They try to handle the issue internally, which can lead to insomnia, insecurity, lack of confidence, decreased productivity, increased aggression, and other related problems.
Overcoming the Stigma
The stigma surrounding men’s mental health has long been a barrier to seeking help. Societal norms have dictated that men should be stoic, self-reliant, and strong, contributing to a culture of silence around mental health struggles. However, this narrative is beginning to change, thanks to mental health advocates, influencers, and high-profile individuals who have courageously shared their personal experiences with mental health issues. This openness has resonated with many, helping to normalize conversations about mental health and encourage others to seek help.
Overcoming stigma requires concerted efforts from various sectors of society. Education and awareness are crucial. Public campaigns targeting common misconceptions about men’s mental health can significantly change attitudes. Incorporating mental health education in schools can foster early understanding and acceptance of mental well-being, creating a culture of openness. Promoting positive narratives around masculinity can encourage men to express vulnerability and seek help.
How to Help
Encouraging men to seek help for mental health issues is crucial for improving their well-being and preventing tragic outcomes. One of the most important steps in this process is reducing the stigma associated with asking for help. Simple actions, such as asking someone if they are okay and showing genuine concern, can make a significant difference. If someone shares their story or ongoing battles with you, never make fun of it, even if you don’t mean it. Personal experience has shown that making light of someone’s struggles can deter them from opening up again.
Supporting men with their mental health involves a combination of empathy, awareness, and practical assistance. It’s important to encourage open conversations about mental health, creating a safe and non-judgmental environment where men feel comfortable expressing their feelings. Listening actively and without interruption shows genuine concern and helps break down the barrier of stigma.
We should talk about mental health, especially men’s mental health, as if it’s normal — because it is. Let’s break the fear, the stigma, and the misconceptions. No one should have to face mental health issues alone.
As a wise man once said, “Manning up in the past was to suffer in silence; manning up now is to put your hand up. It’s okay to be in pain, it’s okay to hurt, it’s okay to be sad, but it’s no longer okay to suffer in silence.”
This June, or any month in general, let’s work together to support men’s mental health, breaking down barriers and ensuring that no man feels alone in his struggles.
We are all in this together, brother. It’s OK. Everything will be alright.
Here are few of the links for mental health resources:
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